In July of 2012 I received a phone call that changed our lives forever. Ultimately, we met Grace, a mother of five children (four through adoption). At Grace's church they have compiled a list of "Go Stories" that encourage the congregation to respond to the prompting of the Holy Spirit and find opportunities to share the love of Christ. Her story...
When God Says GO
"In early June I found out that a young woman, "Charity," who is
part of my extended family, was pregnant and did not want to keep her
baby. There was talk of abortion. Two women in my family were helping
her to think through her situation. One of those women, my mom, serves
in a crisis pregnancy center in GA so quickly gave Charity the names of a
few places to go in her hometown.
Meanwhile I could not stop thinking that I wanted to help her but
did not know how she would respond and as far as I knew she did not know
that I had been told of the situation. I wanted to help her think
through her decision and was pretty sure I could help her find a
Christian family for her baby should she choose to adopt. The thought
nagged and nagged at me. At this point Charity had decided to give her
baby for adoption. I told my mom that if it seemed appropriate she could
share my story of giving a son for adoption and let Charity know that I
knew of families that would love to adopt her baby.
Not long after I talked to my mom the subject came up with
Charity. She took my number and seemed interested in talking with me.
She called the week of July 4th. After talking with her
about her decision, people she had met up to that point to consider
adopting her baby and telling her about my story she said she wanted me
to “introduce” her to families. After we hung up I was overwhelmed with
questions. I thought “how do I do this? Who do I ask? What have I
done????” I stopped to pray about it and the name of a CFC pastor and
co-laborer in the counseling ministry came to my mind. I emailed him
about the situation and my thoughts of how to proceed. I wanted his
wisdom. He emailed back to say he would help me with something I had in
mind and casually mentioned a couple he was friends with that were
trying to adopt. After a few more conversations about the situation he
again mentioned the couple he knew in case I wanted to talk to them.
I prayed about it and talked with my husband. We decided to contact
this couple so I let him know. He contacted them and they were very
interested so I called them. We sent the couple's profile to Charity on
July 26th, and she immediately told me she really liked them. She said
she had a really good feeling about them and that she was choosing them.
On Friday Aug. 3 Charity woke one morning not feeling well. She
texted to say she may not go to work because she felt yucky. Later I
received a call from my mom saying she was taking Charity to the
hospital. This would be her first time with a medical professional
during her pregnancy. I let the family know she was headed to the
hospital. Turned out to be an easily treated infection but in the
process she received some care, was established with a dr. and set her
next appt., and an ultrasound showed the baby would be a boy and a due
date of Sept 16th was given. I called the family with the
“medical report” and said “do you want to know?” the answer was yes so I
let them know he is a boy. They were relieved that this was not labor
as they were in the process of raising money to cover the adoption.
The family had attempted to adopt another baby but it failed to go
through and in that process they used up their funds for adoption. They
had a lot of money to raise in a short time. Little did they know how
short, but God did, and He provided $30K in 9 days!! The family held a
fund raiser, and the response was overwhelming.
On Monday Aug. 20, at 12:53 am, we received a call from Charity
saying she was on her way to the hospital to have the baby. She wanted
me to tell the family. A text with a photo arrived at 5:22 am -a photo
of a precious baby boy. Now the family had to scramble because he
arrived, in God’s perfect timing, 3.5 weeks earlier than expected. They
were together and in the car by noon that day.
Charity gave her son a name because she did not want him to go for a
couple days in the hospital without a name. Later that day the family
called from SC, on their way to OH, to give an update on their progress
and then ask if I had told Charity what they planned to name the baby. I
said “no”. They wondered because they had learned that Charity named
him the same middle name they chose!
The couple arrived and were nervous about meeting Charity and
having her blessing to proceed with adopting. They had two previous
adoptions fall through because the moms changed their minds.
At this point I want to say that Charity listed herself as an
atheist on her paperwork and the family listed themselves as Christian
and their profile, which Charity loved, was very Christian. Charity was
excited that her baby would be in a loving home with other kids. The
couple had sent Charity flowers the day of the birth and had put
together a basket for her and one for her 2-year-old son. Both baskets
had Bibles in them. The next text said they were there, and I continued
praying. Later I got a text from the couple saying “it could not have
gone better.” But the most amazing thing was a later text from Charity
that said “I really cannot thank you enough.” I texted back that she is a
hero in my mind.
I then called Charity and she gushed with excitement and gratitude
she really loved this couple and said when the “mom” picked up the baby
she looked so natural with him, “it was perfect” she said. In all the
conversations I had with her up to this point I had never heard that
kind of joy, peace and gratitude. God was truly glorified in all these
The next day a text came saying the couple had spent time with
Charity and read Romans 8 to her. My mom later told me that Charity
told her about the Bible reading and how God adopts children into His
family. Reports of time spent in the hospital room laughing and crying
were heartwarming and it seemed the couple spent as much, if not more,
time loving on Charity than they did the baby. The kind of love poured
on her was very impactful. I don’t think she has ever experienced the
love of God that is in Christ Jesus before and she seems very taken by
it. She was amazed at reports of people all over the world praying for
her (because of the family’s blog) and her baby, fund raising efforts,
and people she would probably never know loving her and her baby.
Today, Aug. 23, 2012, she signed away her rights and the family is
officially the parents of a baby boy that God had determined from the
beginning of time would be their son!
My continued prayer is that God would use the love lavished on her
to glorify Himself and draw Charity unto Himself through Jesus. I spoke
to Charity yesterday and before we hung up I said “I love you” to which
she replied “I love you too”. This is remarkable due to all the
previous conversations which have been down, hard and focused on the
negative things going on in her life. God continues to grow my awe of
What a privilege to go when He says to go!"